Perfectionism

The Art Of Accepting What Is

The Art Of Accepting What Is

“You are here and yet you dream Of being there; of being where you think the good life has begun” -The Wailin’ Jennys “This can’t be.”  “This is unacceptable.”  “Something has to change.”  “Someone has to do something.” Raise your hand if you’ve said...

Embracing Creative Ebbs and Flows

Embracing Creative Ebbs and Flows

(Or what I’m learning while participating in a challenge to write 14 songs in 28 days) Creativity can feel like an elusive thing- either the spark is there or it isn’t. As a songwriter, I often find myself waiting for that flash of inspiration when it’s all but...

Making Friends with Your Inner Critic

Making Friends with Your Inner Critic

We all have one. You know, that voice in your head that is quick to judge all the things that you’re doing wrong. It’s the voice of “not doing enough,” “not enough” and “too much.”  The one that says you sounded like an idiot at that work meeting, or that you’re...

How To Get the Most Out of Therapy

How To Get the Most Out of Therapy

You’ve gone through the process of finding a therapist who is a good fit for you, and now you’re about to go to your first few sessions. Particularly for those folks who are struggling with anxiety and/or relationship challenges, know that it is normal to feel nervous...

What to Do About Imposter Syndrome 

What to Do About Imposter Syndrome 

I know imposter syndrome well. Each time I’ve started a new job, given a presentation or spoken up in a meeting full of people I consider “experts,” a voice of doubt and warning goes off in my head. It likes to say things like “you’re going to sound like you don’t...